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Comp Cams Cs Xr280 R-10

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Comp Cams Cs Xr280 R-10MECHANICAL ROLLER: Best in street machines with 2800 stall, 10: 1 or more compression with 3. 73 3. 90 rear gears. Vehicle Fitments: Year Make Model Submodel 1995 1996 AM General Hummer Base 1980 1991 Avanti II Base 1985 Avanti II GT 1980 Buick Century Base, Estate, Sport, Limited 1991 1996 Buick Commercial Chassis Base 1980 Buick Regal Limited, Base, Sport 1991 1995 Buick Roadmaster Estate Wagon 1996 Buick Roadmaster Limited Collector's Edition,

MECHANICAL ROLLER: Best in street machines with 2800 stall, 10:1 or more compression with 3.73 -3.90 rear gears.



Vehicle Fitments:

Year Make Model Submodel
1995 - 1996 AM General Hummer Base
1980 - 1991 Avanti II Base
1985 Avanti II GT
1980 Buick Century Base, Estate, Sport, Limited
1991 - 1996 Buick Commercial Chassis Base
1980 Buick Regal Limited, Base, Sport
1991 - 1995 Buick Roadmaster Estate Wagon
1996 Buick Roadmaster Limited Collector's Edition, Collector's Edition, Estate Wagon Collector's Edition
1992 - 1995 Buick Roadmaster Limited, Base
1990 - 1992 Cadillac Brougham Base, d'Elegance
1992 - 1996 Cadillac Commercial Chassis Base, Brougham
1993 - 1996 Cadillac Fleetwood Brougham, Base
1980 - 1982 Checker Marathon Deluxe, Base
1992 - 1993 Chevrolet Blazer Cheyenne
1987 Chevrolet Blazer Custom Deluxe
1991 - 1994 Chevrolet Blazer Nevada
1988 - 1991 Chevrolet Blazer Scottsdale
1987 - 1994 Chevrolet Blazer Silverado
1994 Chevrolet Blazer Silverado Sport, Base
1980 Chevrolet C10 Big Ten, Custom Deluxe
1980 - 1981 Chevrolet C10 Cheyenne
1981 Chevrolet C10 Deluxe
1980 - 1986 Chevrolet C10 Silverado, Custom, Scottsdale
1981 - 1986 Chevrolet C10 Suburban Custom
1980 Chevrolet C10 Suburban Custom Deluxe
1981 Chevrolet C10 Suburban Deluxe
1980 - 1986 Chevrolet C10 Suburban Silverado, Scottsdale
1990 - 1993 Chevrolet C1500 454 SS
1989 - 1995 Chevrolet C1500 Base
1988 - 1995 Chevrolet C1500 Cheyenne, Silverado
1988 - 1992 Chevrolet C1500 Scottsdale
1990 - 1995 Chevrolet C1500 WT
1992 - 1995 Chevrolet C1500 Suburban Base
1995 Chevrolet C1500 Suburban LS, LT
1992 - 1994 Chevrolet C1500 Suburban Silverado
1986 Chevrolet C20 Base
1981 - 1986 Chevrolet C20 Custom
1980 Chevrolet C20 Custom Deluxe
1981 Chevrolet C20 Deluxe
1980 - 1986 Chevrolet C20 Scottsdale, Cheyenne, Silverado
1981 - 1986 Chevrolet C20 Suburban Custom
1980 Chevrolet C20 Suburban Custom Deluxe
1981 Chevrolet C20 Suburban Deluxe
1980 - 1986 Chevrolet C20 Suburban Scottsdale, Silverado
1993 Chevrolet C2500 Custom, 400 SS
1988 - 1992 Chevrolet C2500 Scottsdale
1988 - 1995 Chevrolet C2500 Silverado, Cheyenne, Base
1994 - 1995 Chevrolet C2500 WT
1992 - 1995 Chevrolet C2500 Suburban Base
1995 Chevrolet C2500 Suburban LT, LS
1992 - 1994 Chevrolet C2500 Suburban Silverado
1980 - 1982 Chevrolet C30 Base
1980 - 1981 Chevrolet C30 Cheyenne
1981 - 1986 Chevrolet C30 Custom
1980 Chevrolet C30 Custom Deluxe
1981 Chevrolet C30 Deluxe
1980 - 1986 Chevrolet C30 Silverado, Scottsdale
1994 - 1995 Chevrolet C3500 Base
1988 - 1992 Chevrolet C3500 Scottsdale
1988 - 1995 Chevrolet C3500 Silverado, Cheyenne
1980 - 1988 Chevrolet Camaro Base
1980 - 1986 Chevrolet Camaro Berlinetta
1985 - 1990 Chevrolet Camaro Iroc-Z
1987 Chevrolet Camaro LT
1980 Chevrolet Camaro Rally Sport
1989 - 1992 Chevrolet Camaro RS
1992 Chevrolet Camaro RS Heritage Edition, Z28 Heritage Edition
1981 - 1987 Chevrolet Camaro Sport
1980 - 1992 Chevrolet Camaro Z28
1982 Chevrolet Camaro Z28 Indianapolis 500 Pace Car
1980 - 1992 Chevrolet Caprice Base
1980 - 1996 Chevrolet Caprice Classic
1986 - 1990 Chevrolet Caprice Classic Brougham
1981 - 1982 Chevrolet Caprice Classic Estate
1980 - 1981 Chevrolet Caprice Classic Landau
1993 - 1994 Chevrolet Caprice Classic LS
1987 - 1990 Chevrolet Caprice Classic LS Brougham
1991 - 1993 Chevrolet Caprice Classic LTZ
1980 Chevrolet Caprice Classic Sport
1991 - 1994 Chevrolet Commercial Chassis Base
1988 Chevrolet Corvette 35th Anniversary Edition
1980 - 1991 Chevrolet Corvette Base
1982 Chevrolet Corvette Collector's Edition
1986 Chevrolet Corvette Indianapolis 500 Pace Car
1990 - 1991 Chevrolet Corvette ZR-1
1980 - 1987 Chevrolet El Camino Base, SS
1981 - 1986 Chevrolet El Camino Conquista
1980 - 1981 Chevrolet El Camino Royal Knight
1996 Chevrolet Express 2500 LS, Base
1983 Chevrolet G10 Base
1981 - 1987 Chevrolet G10 Bonaventure
1980 - 1995 Chevrolet G10 Chevy Van, Sportvan, Beauville
1995 Chevrolet G20 Base
1983 - 1984 Chevrolet G20 Bonaventure
1980 - 1981 Chevrolet G20 Nomad
1980 - 1995 Chevrolet G20 Sportvan, Beauville, Chevy Van
1983 - 1984 Chevrolet G30 Bonaventure
1980 - 1996 Chevrolet G30 Hi-Cube, Beauville, Chevy Van, Sportvan
1980 - 1985 Chevrolet Impala Base
1981 - 1982 Chevrolet Impala Estate
1980 Chevrolet Impala Sport
1994 - 1996 Chevrolet Impala SS
1980 - 1981 Chevrolet K10 Cheyenne
1981 - 1986 Chevrolet K10 Custom
1980 Chevrolet K10 Custom Deluxe
1981 Chevrolet K10 Deluxe
1980 - 1986 Chevrolet K10 Silverado, Scottsdale
1981 - 1986 Chevrolet K10 Suburban Custom
1980 Chevrolet K10 Suburban Custom Deluxe
1981 Chevrolet K10 Suburban Deluxe
1980 - 1986 Chevrolet K10 Suburban Silverado, Scottsdale
1994 - 1995 Chevrolet K1500 Base
1988 - 1995 Chevrolet K1500 Cheyenne, Silverado
1988 - 1992 Chevrolet K1500 Scottsdale
1991 Chevrolet K1500 Sport
1990 - 1995 Chevrolet K1500 WT
1992 - 1995 Chevrolet K1500 Suburban Base
1995 Chevrolet K1500 Suburban LT, LS
1992 - 1994 Chevrolet K1500 Suburban Silverado
1980 - 1981 Chevrolet K20 Cheyenne
1981 - 1986 Chevrolet K20 Custom
1980 Chevrolet K20 Custom Deluxe
1981 Chevrolet K20 Deluxe
1980 - 1986 Chevrolet K20 Scottsdale, Silverado
1981 - 1986 Chevrolet K20 Suburban Custom
1980 Chevrolet K20 Suburban Custom Deluxe
1981 Chevrolet K20 Suburban Deluxe
1980 - 1986 Chevrolet K20 Suburban Silverado, Scottsdale
1994 - 1995 Chevrolet K2500 Base, WT
1988 - 1995 Chevrolet K2500 Cheyenne, Silverado
1988 - 1992 Chevrolet K2500 Scottsdale
1992 - 1995 Chevrolet K2500 Suburban Base
1995 Chevrolet K2500 Suburban LS, LT
1992 - 1994 Chevrolet K2500 Suburban Silverado
1980 - 1981 Chevrolet K30 Cheyenne
1981 - 1986 Chevrolet K30 Custom
1980 Chevrolet K30 Custom Deluxe
1981 Chevrolet K30 Deluxe
1980 - 1986 Chevrolet K30 Scottsdale, Silverado
1994 - 1995 Chevrolet K3500 Base
1988 - 1995 Chevrolet K3500 Cheyenne, Silverado
1988 - 1992 Chevrolet K3500 Scottsdale
1981 - 1986 Chevrolet K5 Blazer Custom
1980 Chevrolet K5 Blazer Custom Deluxe, Cheyenne
1981 Chevrolet K5 Blazer Deluxe
1984 Chevrolet K5 Blazer Scottsdale
1980 - 1986 Chevrolet K5 Blazer Silverado
1980 - 1983 Chevrolet Malibu Classic
1980 - 1981 Chevrolet Malibu Classic Landau, Base
1980 Chevrolet Malibu Classic Sport, Sport, Estate, Classic Estate
1981 - 1988 Chevrolet Monte Carlo Base
1983 Chevrolet Monte Carlo CL
1980 - 1981 Chevrolet Monte Carlo Landau
1986 - 1988 Chevrolet Monte Carlo LS
1980 Chevrolet Monte Carlo Sport
1983 - 1988 Chevrolet Monte Carlo SS
1980 - 1989 Chevrolet P20 Base, Step-Van
1980 - 1998 Chevrolet P30 Base
1980 - 1990 Chevrolet P30 Step-Van
1987 Chevrolet R10 Scottsdale, Silverado, Custom Deluxe
1987 Chevrolet R10 Suburban Custom Deluxe
1987 - 1988 Chevrolet R10 Suburban Silverado, Scottsdale
1989 - 1991 Chevrolet R1500 Suburban Scottsdale, Silverado
1988 Chevrolet R20 Cheyenne
1987 - 1988 Chevrolet R20 Silverado, Custom Deluxe, Scottsdale
1987 Chevrolet R20 Suburban Custom Deluxe
1987 - 1988 Chevrolet R20 Suburban Silverado, Scottsdale
1989 Chevrolet R2500 Scottsdale, Cheyenne, Silverado
1989 - 1991 Chevrolet R2500 Suburban Scottsdale, Silverado
1988 Chevrolet R30 Cheyenne
1987 - 1988 Chevrolet R30 Silverado, Scottsdale, Custom Deluxe
1989 - 1990 Chevrolet R3500 Scottsdale
1989 - 1991 Chevrolet R3500 Silverado, Cheyenne
1995 Chevrolet Tahoe LT, LS, Base
1987 Chevrolet V10 Custom Deluxe, Scottsdale, Silverado
1987 Chevrolet V10 Suburban Custom Deluxe
1987 - 1988 Chevrolet V10 Suburban Scottsdale, Silverado
1989 - 1991 Chevrolet V1500 Suburban Silverado, Scottsdale
1987 Chevrolet V20 Silverado, Scottsdale, Custom Deluxe
1987 Chevrolet V20 Suburban Custom Deluxe
1987 - 1988 Chevrolet V20 Suburban Silverado, Scottsdale
1989 - 1991 Chevrolet V2500 Suburban Scottsdale, Silverado
1988 Chevrolet V30 Cheyenne
1987 - 1988 Chevrolet V30 Custom Deluxe, Silverado, Scottsdale
1989 - 1991 Chevrolet V3500 Cheyenne, Silverado
1989 - 1990 Chevrolet V3500 Scottsdale
1993 Excalibur Limited Base
1985 Excalibur Phaeton Anniversary
1980 - 1989 Excalibur Phaeton Base
1980 - 1986 GMC C1500 Base, High Sierra, Sierra Classic
1980 GMC C1500 Heavy Half
1980 - 1982 GMC C1500 Sierra Grande, Street Coupe
1994 - 1995 GMC C1500 Sierra SL, Sierra Special, Sierra SLT
1988 - 1995 GMC C1500 Sierra SLE
1988 - 1993 GMC C1500 Sierra, Sierra SLX
1980 - 1995 GMC C1500 Suburban Base
1980 - 1986 GMC C1500 Suburban Sierra Classic, High Sierra
1980 - 1982 GMC C1500 Suburban Sierra Grande
1992 - 1995 GMC C1500 Suburban SLE
1995 GMC C1500 Suburban SLT
1980 - 1986 GMC C2500 Sierra Classic, Base, High Sierra
1980 - 1982 GMC C2500 Sierra Grande
1994 - 1995 GMC C2500 Sierra SL, Sierra SLT
1988 - 1995 GMC C2500 Sierra SLE
1988 - 1993 GMC C2500 Sierra SLX, Sierra
1980 - 1995 GMC C2500 Suburban Base
1980 - 1986 GMC C2500 Suburban High Sierra, Sierra Classic
1980 - 1982 GMC C2500 Suburban Sierra Grande
1992 - 1995 GMC C2500 Suburban SLE
1995 GMC C2500 Suburban SLT
1980 - 1986 GMC C3500 Base, High Sierra, Sierra Classic
1980 - 1982 GMC C3500 Sierra Grande
1994 - 1995 GMC C3500 Sierra SL, Sierra SLT
1988 - 1995 GMC C3500 Sierra SLE
1988 - 1993 GMC C3500 Sierra SLX, Sierra
1981 - 1986 GMC Caballero Amarillo
1981 GMC Caballero Conquista, Royal Knight
1980 - 1987 GMC Caballero Diablo, Base
1980 GMC Caballero Laredo
1983 - 1984 GMC G1500 Rally Custom
1980 - 1995 GMC G1500 Rally STX, Vandura, Rally
1983 - 1984 GMC G2500 Rally Custom
1980 - 1995 GMC G2500 Vandura, Rally, Rally STX
1981 - 1988 GMC G3500 Rally Custom
1980 - 1996 GMC G3500 Rally, Vandura, Vandura Special, Rally Camper Special, Magnavan, Rally STX
1980 - 1991 GMC Jimmy Base
1980 - 1985 GMC Jimmy High Sierra
1980 - 1990 GMC Jimmy Sierra Classic
1986 GMC Jimmy Silverado
1980 - 1982 GMC Jimmy Street Coupe, Sierra Grande
1980 - 1986 GMC K1500 High Sierra, Sierra Classic, Base
1980 - 1982 GMC K1500 Sierra Grande
1988 - 1995 GMC K1500 Sierra SLE
1995 GMC K1500 Sierra SLS
1988 - 1993 GMC K1500 Sierra SLX, Sierra
1994 - 1995 GMC K1500 Sierra Special, Sierra SL, Sierra SLT
1993 GMC K1500 Sierra Sport
1980 - 1995 GMC K1500 Suburban Base
1980 - 1986 GMC K1500 Suburban Sierra Classic, High Sierra
1980 - 1982 GMC K1500 Suburban Sierra Grande
1992 - 1995 GMC K1500 Suburban SLE
1995 GMC K1500 Suburban SLT
1980 - 1986 GMC K2500 Base, High Sierra, Sierra Classic
1980 - 1982 GMC K2500 Sierra Grande
1994 - 1995 GMC K2500 Sierra SL, Sierra SLT
1988 - 1995 GMC K2500 Sierra SLE
1988 - 1993 GMC K2500 Sierra SLX, Sierra
1980 - 1995 GMC K2500 Suburban Base
1980 - 1986 GMC K2500 Suburban High Sierra, Sierra Classic
1980 - 1982 GMC K2500 Suburban Sierra Grande
1992 - 1995 GMC K2500 Suburban SLE
1995 GMC K2500 Suburban SLT
1980 - 1986 GMC K3500 Base, High Sierra, Sierra Classic
1980 - 1982 GMC K3500 Sierra Grande
1994 - 1995 GMC K3500 Sierra SL, Sierra SLT
1988 - 1995 GMC K3500 Sierra SLE
1988 - 1993 GMC K3500 Sierra SLX, Sierra
1980 - 1989 GMC P2500 Base, Value Van
1980 - 1996 GMC P3500 Base
1980 - 1990 GMC P3500 Value Van
1987 GMC R1500 Base, Sierra Classic, High Sierra
1987 - 1991 GMC R1500 Suburban Base
1987 GMC R1500 Suburban High Sierra
1987 - 1989 GMC R1500 Suburban Sierra Classic
1990 GMC R1500 Suburban SLE
1987 - 1989 GMC R2500 Sierra Classic, High Sierra, Base
1987 - 1991 GMC R2500 Suburban Base
1987 GMC R2500 Suburban High Sierra
1987 - 1989 GMC R2500 Suburban Sierra Classic
1990 GMC R2500 Suburban SLE
1987 - 1991 GMC R3500 Base
1987 - 1989 GMC R3500 Sierra Classic, High Sierra
1990 - 1991 GMC R3500 SLE
1987 GMC V1500 Sierra Classic, High Sierra, Base
1987 - 1991 GMC V1500 Suburban Base
1987 GMC V1500 Suburban High Sierra
1987 - 1989 GMC V1500 Suburban Sierra Classic
1990 GMC V1500 Suburban SLE
1987 GMC V2500 Sierra Classic, High Sierra, Base
1987 - 1991 GMC V2500 Suburban Base
1987 GMC V2500 Suburban High Sierra
1987 - 1989 GMC V2500 Suburban Sierra Classic
1990 GMC V2500 Suburban SLE
1987 - 1991 GMC V3500 Base
1987 - 1989 GMC V3500 High Sierra, Sierra Classic
1990 - 1991 GMC V3500 SLE
1993 GMC Yukon GT
1992 - 1995 GMC Yukon SLE, Base
1995 GMC Yukon SLT
1992 - 1994 GMC Yukon Sport
1991 - 1992 Oldsmobile Custom Cruiser Base
1980 Oldsmobile Cutlass Base, LS, Brougham
1980 Oldsmobile Cutlass Calais Base
1980 - 1982 Oldsmobile Cutlass Cruiser Base
1980 Oldsmobile Cutlass Cruiser Brougham
1980 Oldsmobile Cutlass Salon Brougham, Base
1980 Oldsmobile Cutlass Supreme Base, Brougham
1983 - 1986 Pontiac Bonneville Brougham, Base
1984 - 1986 Pontiac Bonneville LE
1980 - 1997 Pontiac Firebird Base, Formula, Trans Am
1980 - 1981 Pontiac Firebird Esprit
1982 - 1986 Pontiac Firebird S/E
1994 Pontiac Firebird Trans Am GT
1989 - 1992 Pontiac Firebird Trans Am GTA
1989 Pontiac Firebird Trans Am GTA SE
1980 Pontiac Grand Am Base
1980 Pontiac Grand LeMans Safari, Base, LE
1980 - 1987 Pontiac Grand Prix Base
1983 - 1987 Pontiac Grand Prix Brougham
1984 - 1987 Pontiac Grand Prix LE
1980 - 1983 Pontiac Grand Prix LJ
1980 Pontiac Grand Prix SJ
1980 Pontiac LeMans Safari, Base
1983 - 1986 Pontiac Parisienne Brougham, Base
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Good reference manual for64 Bit Assembly Programming. Not an Introductory text.
Format: Paperback
I initially bought Assembly x64 in easy steps: Modern coding for MASM, SSE & AVX which is an excellent introduction to 64 Bit Assembly. This book however IS NOT an Introductory book - it is more a Reference to X64 Assembly. If you are new to Assembly Programming I suggest buying the introductory book and if you are serious about Assembly Programming then buy this book.
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Reviewed in the United States on March 14, 2024
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Jamie Block
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Parenting philosophy for all ages and stages
Format: Hardcover
Good Inside is the book I find myself referencing more than any other parenting book - well any book for that matter. I'm sure I annoy my friends! I annoy myself with my constant Dr. Becky this, and Dr. Becky that, but the truth is, I want more for my child. And in seeking out ways to understand him better, approach him better, be there for him better, Dr. Becky Kennedy allowed me to look at my own inner child and want better for her too. Good Inside helped me identify sources of my own pain, start healing, and empower me with tools to approach my child's struggles with more compassion, understanding, and confidence. This book sits perfectly between the scientific approach of Whole Brain Child and the spiritual views of The Enlightened Parent. You're gonna get a dose of warm fuzziness with a whole lot of practical and psychological gold! And as I hinted at before, this is for kids of all ages. You're not just getting a book aimed at how to survive the 2yo stage. You're getting a perspective that embeds itself into every relationship you have. Yes; it has been enormously useful with my toddler, but it has also helped my marriage. So, let me annoy you too. Becky Becky Becky!
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Reviewed in the United States on December 20, 2023
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Mama N
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The most important book a parent will ever read
Format: Hardcover
I have so much I want to say about this book and how it changed my perspective to parenting for the better. There are so many books about what to expect when you first find out you’re pregnant and how to go about the next newborn/infant stage. There’s not enough talk about needing to read parenting books beyond the first 12 months. To be honest, I found this book the most motivating, inspiring and HELPFUL Of them all. This book is definitely geared towards the toddler and beyond years, and I really wish I had read this earlier. Please do yourself a favor and read this book prior to toddler years. Even if you think you know how to go about helping foster your on childs independent, appropriate, and emotional development, as well as sibling/ friendship hardship in the correct manner, I challenged you to read this book to make sure what you’re doing (or plan to do) is truly right. This book helped me develop the tools (actions and word choices) that I needed to improve my reactions towards undesirable words or actions by my toddler. This in turn has reduced her outbursts (Both physical and verbal) and has given her anymore independent and an emotionally stable/strong relationship with herself and everyone else. This is especially for those strong willed and emotionally intelligent/ sensitive children. To be honest, I even learned a lot about how to navigate adult relationships better. I learned a little bit (maybe more than I want to admit) about myself too. 10/10.
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Reviewed in the United States on June 11, 2025
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Louis Liu
Lexington, US
★★★★★ 5
After all, chidren are good inside.
Format: Kindle
Parenting is about how parents treat their kids. One important aspect of what counts for good parenting is how we face the kids’ negative behaviors. When we were children, our parents did not respect our emotional needs. They only scolded us when we were naughty. After we become parents, we treat our kids the way our parents treated us. Dr Becky proposes in this book, contrary to what our parents thought, children are all good inside and thus we should treat children’s bad behaviors as if their misbehaviors are signs that they don’t know how to express their needs. With this assumption, there are three implications for parenting. First, as children are good inside, what they do outside should not be our focus. Whether it is emotional tantrums, not listening, aggressive tantrums, sibling rivalry, rudeness and defiance, whining, lying, food habits, parents should not pay too much attention to it. Instead, parents should see the cause that contributes to the resulting negative behavior. Take whining as an example. Whining, according to a Cambridge dictionary, means ‘to make a long, high, sad sound’. As parents we are easily annoyed by whining and we quickly think that kids are disrespectful. In Dr Becky’s view, whining=strong desire+powerlessness. Children whine because they feel helpless and ‘indicate they feel alone and unseen in their desires’ (p.188), rather than because they are arrogant. What does this imply? Do we have to give in, knowing that they are desperate for connection and feeling powerful? The answer is no. Dr Becky said ‘while our job as parents is to make decisions that we feel are right for our kids even in the face of protest, we can still practice understanding and connecting’. While saying no, which they probably know they do need, at the same time we can give them the sympathy they also need. Thinking that kids are bad inside often leads to power struggles or arguments when we request them to request in an appropriate tone again. Kids are good inside, and thus we should focus our attention on how to respond to their helplessness rather than their whines. Secondly, not only should we not focus on their outside behavior, we should also be aware that what is on the surface often contrasts with what the kid feels inside. One of the most-feared emotions we are afraid to see children have is anger, also known as tantrums. When children are angry, they display undesirably violent behaviors such as hitting others. Dr Becky points out that they hit not because they are angry, but because they are scared. When we adults are afraid, we may also kill people if we are irrational. Children have not yet developed their prefrontal cortex which is responsible for logic and language, and so the most severe reaction they can possibly express is through tantrums. We may wonder why children are afraid: they are “terrified of the sensations, urges, and feelings coursing inside their body” (p.158) such as frustration and anxiety. These feelings which adults are used to feel scary to kids. Naming the right emotion is the first step to solving the problem and helping kids to cope with it. Only after we identify correctly the emotion the children are experiencing can we as parents exert the right method to deal with the out-of-control behavior. Clearly we know reprimanding our kids is not correct because “they are good inside”. To stop the kid's aggressive tantrums effectively, parents should assert their authority. Parents should show the confidence that they are in charge of the situation. Then, the next critical step is to maintain the kid's safety. Regardless of how the kid feels, the parent should stop the dangerous behavior the kid is engaging in, which Dr Becky calls containment. She says it best: “kids don’t feel good when they are out of control”. That we assert our authority and contain even though kids are not happy on the surface is an act of love, maturity, and responsibility. If we don't, not only will it cause injury, it will make children think we evade responsibility, thus making them feel more overwhelmed. To conclude, as parents we need to know our roles and our kids’ roles. Our job is to keep our children safe, both physically and psychologically. We need to remember that a gap exists between kids’ abilities to feel and their abilities to regulate their feelings, and the gap manifests as deregulated behavior. While it is children’s job to explore and express their feelings, it is our job to help them regulate them by setting physical boundaries, validating their emotions, and being empathetic to their feelings. We are our kids’ role models. We are demonstrating to our kids the emotion regulation skills. As our kids are allowed to shout and protest because they are doing their jobs, we are also allowed to upset them when we set boundaries. We just need to remember that to do our job well, we must learn to connect with and understand them more because after all, children are good inside.
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Reviewed in the United States on February 4, 2025
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RICHARD MERCER
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Good read
Very good basic subjective author. Some modern therapist offer a different perspective on rewards and child behavior, but to be expected in academia. As with any behavioral psychology observable or behavioral science documents - measure the subjective amount against the scientific controlling evidence being offerred. If no evidence - it is just subjective opinion.
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Reviewed in the United States on March 7, 2026

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